Sunday, February 13, 2011
I belong to a Mommy Group and I heard the most outrageous thing the other day, I heard a Mom refer to something silly she had done as her using her "Mommy brain". I'm sure I'm not the only person who has heard these words used to describe a lapse of memory or forgetfulness.
I bristle with this term. Here is a list of the things I have to remember in any given day: wake up and remember to take vitamins to keep strong, remember which child requires lactaid and which child doesn't, remember which child has the vitamins with the fluoride and which child has the asthma breathing treatment, remember which child needs help making her bed and which doesn't, remember to shower and dress and fix hair and look presentable, remember to put on underwear, remember to check and see if there is a lunch to be made or hot lunch, remember to make lunch and pack it in lunchbox to go to school, remember to get backpack and put a water bottle in it, remember to give this child a snack for snacktime, remember if it is library day and if the library book has been packed to return to the library so as not to incurr a late fee, remember to include homework folder, remember to sign the homework paperwork to indicate that you and your child have worked on it collaboratively, remember to leave the house with enough time to get to school walking, remember to bring your keys and phone in case you might need them on the walk to school, remember to have your kids go potty before they leave the house in case they need to pee on the way there, remember to put on raincoats or regular coats, regular boots or rain boots, depending on the weather, remember to put helmets on before getting the bikes and scooters out, remember the backpack so you don't have to run back home which makes your trip much more stressful, we are only at 8:30am.
For those of you that don't have kids and are wondering if this is something you might like to do but enjoy all the time you spend on and with yourself, take out a piece of paper and write on one side of the paper "Stuff Joy Does For Herself" and on the other side write "Stuff Joy Does For Her Kids" and then draw a line down the middle of the paper. Notice how many things are on one side versus how many things are on the other side. Now take a 2nd piece of paper and write down all the things you do for yourself and all the things you do for others and tally those up. It might not be for you. As a matter of fact, there are a lot of people who have kids who didn't really think it through.
I also find that I can remember poems, songs and stories without having to look at the books. This comes in especially handy when we are in the car or waiting in the doctor's office and one of the kids says, "Mommy, can you tell me the Kittens and the Mittens story" or "Mommy, can you tell me about the Owl and the Pussycat again?"
The next time you hear someone use the words "Mommy Brain" you should walk over to them and shake their hand or pat them on the back or better yet, give them a bear hug and kiss them on the lips. You might never come close to greatness again.