Ever wondered what 10 year old girls talk about?
Friend: I don't like to go to Katie's house because her Mom smokes and it smells bad inside. And Katie's 16 year old sister smokes too and there is all this beer all over the place and in the kitchen and all they do is smoke cigars and stuff and drink beer even the 16 year old.
My kid: That is smelly isn't it?
Friend: Yeah and when you open up the dresser drawers there are all these ashes and all these pretty plates all over the place full of ashes and cigars. And she asks me all the time to sleep over but I don't know what to say.
My kid: Why don't you tell her that you don't like it?
Friend: I don't want to hurt her feelings.
My kid: You can die from cigarettes. Michael Jackson died from taking too many cigarettes. (No matter how many times I've told them that this is not how he died they ALWAYS say this and it drives me crazy)
Friend: And it is really hot in their house. She got a divorce and she doesn't have money to turn on the air conditioning and since she stays home all day she just leaves all the doors and windows closed and smokes and drinks beer. Across the street is Katie's step-mom and she has a big house and air conditioning. And she goes outside to smoke her cigars. That way the inside stays nice and clean and smells good.
My kid: Susan at school started crying because her mom and dad got a divorce and she hadn't seen her dad in a long time and she found out she was going to see him and she started crying because she was so excited.
Friend: Well Katie's mom and step-mom were best friends but then the dad stopped being married to the mom and moved across the street to be with the step-mom. He said he was working all the time but he was really smoking cigars across the street with the best friend.
My kid: That is really sad.
This is when I jumped in the conversation and gave them a lecture on second hand smoke inhalation and the effects of absenteeism parenting.